Zen Zone with Sonya Dunbar: Self-Love


In a world that often demands perfection and sets unrealistic standards, self-love becomes a beacon of light, guiding us through our insecurities and doubts. Self-love goes beyond surface-level affirmations; it delves into acceptance, compassion, and understanding. It’s about embracing who you are, flaws and imperfections included.

Self-love is a conscious choice. It’s a commitment to treat yourself with kindness, patience, and respect, acknowledging that you are a work in progress. The journey to self-love is unique for everyone and doesn’t happen automatically. Life’s challenges can shape our perception of ourselves, leading to a diminished sense of self-worth.

To embark on the journey of self-love, engaging in introspection is crucial. Here are some questions to guide you on your path:

  1. Do you say negative things about yourself? For example – if you make a mistake – do you say, “I’m so stupid I never get it right!”?
  2. Do you often find yourself putting other people’s needs before your own?
  3. Are you always apologizing? 
  4. Are you comparing yourself to others?
  5. Do you tell others you’re not good enough? 
  6. Do you hide your true feelings and thoughts from people?
  7. Are you not comfortable with your body or appearance? 
  8. Do you self-sabotage?
  9. Do you say, “I can’t”?
  10. Do you find it difficult to stand up for yourself?

If your self-love levels are low, here are just a few tips to help you start showing yourself more love. Remember that healthy love is when you realize you can only love others as much as you love yourself. 

  1. This may seem silly, but it works! Look in the mirror daily, find something about yourself that you like and compliment it. 
  2. Start an “I love me journal.” Write in this journal daily about three things you love about yourself. Even if it’s something small like, “I like my ears”!
  3. Don’t be afraid to let go of toxic people!
  4. Don’t compare yourself to other people!
  5. Limit your social media time!

Self-love is a transformative journey that requires intentional effort and self-reflection. By asking these questions and incorporating these tips, you pave the way for a deeper understanding of yourself and developing compassionate self-love. Embrace the process. Through self-love, you unlock the door to a more fulfilling personal and professional life.