Written by
Sonya Dunbar
In a world that often demands perfection and sets unrealistic standards, self-love becomes a beacon of light, guiding us through our insecurities and doubts. Self-love goes beyond surface-level affirmations; it delves into acceptance, compassion, and understanding. It’s about embracing who you are, flaws and imperfections included.
Self-love is a conscious choice. It’s a commitment to treat yourself with kindness, patience, and respect, acknowledging that you are a work in progress. The journey to self-love is unique for everyone and doesn’t happen automatically. Life’s challenges can shape our perception of ourselves, leading to a diminished sense of self-worth.
To embark on the journey of self-love, engaging in introspection is crucial. Here are some questions to guide you on your path:
- Do you say negative things about yourself? For example – if you make a mistake – do you say, “I’m so stupid I never get it right!”?
- Do you often find yourself putting other people’s needs before your own?
- Are you always apologizing?
- Are you comparing yourself to others?
- Do you tell others you’re not good enough?
- Do you hide your true feelings and thoughts from people?
- Are you not comfortable with your body or appearance?
- Do you self-sabotage?
- Do you say, “I can’t”?
- Do you find it difficult to stand up for yourself?
If your self-love levels are low, here are just a few tips to help you start showing yourself more love. Remember that healthy love is when you realize you can only love others as much as you love yourself.
- This may seem silly, but it works! Look in the mirror daily, find something about yourself that you like and compliment it.
- Start an “I love me journal.” Write in this journal daily about three things you love about yourself. Even if it’s something small like, “I like my ears”!
- Don’t be afraid to let go of toxic people!
- Don’t compare yourself to other people!
- Limit your social media time!
Self-love is a transformative journey that requires intentional effort and self-reflection. By asking these questions and incorporating these tips, you pave the way for a deeper understanding of yourself and developing compassionate self-love. Embrace the process. Through self-love, you unlock the door to a more fulfilling personal and professional life.
